Today I am guest posting over at my friend Ashley’s blog, Wishes and Dishes. She is a fabulous fellow food blogger, who happens to be fortunate enough to be vacationing in HAWAII right now! Go Ashley!
You guys MUST get over there and check out these chewy oatmeal chocolate chip cookies. They were so fantastic! Click any of the cookie pictures to be taken to Wishes and Dishes! Tell Ashley that Nicole sent you, and go forth and make these cookies! They are WORTH the oven being turned on. Or you can get brave and fire up your grill and cook them in there!
We are just enjoying the first full week of summer vacation here. Or rather learning how to manage it, I guess. It is hard on a school day to find time to get everything done that needs to get done, and often times it just doesn’t happen.
When there are five kids running around the house, four of them who are rambunctious little boys who think nothing of wiping whatever disgusting things happen to be on their hands on whatever happens to be closest (wall, shirt sleeve, me, carpet), and for whom no matter how many thousands of times I tell them feel like the floor is an acceptable place for any old thing to go, (Garbage. Dirty clothes. Broken bits of styrofoam. Empty cereal boxes. FULL cereal boxes. The rest of the handful of cheese crackers that they didn’t want to eat because they thought their brother MIGHTS have touched one when they walked by.) It is almost impossible to have even a moderately acceptable house, much less a company-ready in less than an entire day house.
I desperately WANT to be clean and tidy and organized, but then I’m like, “But I’m tired! And I’ve been going ALL DAY LONG and I don’t WANT to spend the 15 seconds I have to myself today organizing that closet!” My brain talks me out of it every.time. So this summer I’m getting help.
In an effort to tame the beast that is this gigantic house that I LOVE but it nearly impossible to keep up with currently, I’m enlisting the help of my many minions that we created to help clean up their OWN messes. Imagine that! Novel idea, right?
I’ve done chore charts before, but I kind of gave up on it a few months ago. It was a LOT to keep up with during school with homework, dinner, dinner clean up, a little play time, and then the bed time routine. There isn’t really time for chores with all of that to do between the hours of 4:00pm – 8:00pm. But now that it is summer? It is game on.
It is really important to me that my kids learn how to work, how to do a good job, even if its hard, and how to be proud of what they do. It is definitely going to take some coaching. There were a few tears and some discipline going on just during the EXPLAINING of the chore chart, but once we got going it was pretty smooth sailing.
Tomorrow I’m going to make up a color coded behavior chart too, and what color they end up on is going to determine their nightly bed time. I don’t have all the details of that worked out in my head yet, but basically if they do something that’s against the rules, they get to pick a chore from the “extras” list that needs to be done, and they have to move down a color. If I notice them doing a lot better and working hard to change their attitude or be extra kind to each other, I’ll let them move back up the chart. Kids that are struggling to maintain will end up in bed earlier, which is what they need anyway, and kids who are behaving well get rewarded by staying up later withOUT having to deal with the bad behavior of those who can’t handle it.
These small changed *should* solve a lot of our summer issues, which are (in no particular order):
- Fighting and arguing, constantly.
- Being rude and mean to each other
- Hitting/Kicking/Punching/Pinching, etc
- Not listing to directions
- Ignoring me when I talk to them
- Too much screen time
We are going to do a lot of talking about kindness, and WHY we should treat our family nicely, and lift them up instead of tearing them down. I am going to tone MY volume down, and model the behavior that I want them to have. We are all going to fail at times, but as long as we keep trying its okay! Have you guys heard of the Orange Rhino challenge? I’m taking it.
I started it once before, but failed pretty early on and just kind of gave up and decided I would just “try on my own”. I HAVE toned down a little, but not nearly enough. I’m loud. Really loud. Add a chaotic trying time with the kids when everyone is talking, no one is listening, and I get even louder.
Now, I’m not opposed to *some* yelling. The kids are down the street and outside of their boundaries and I see them from the kitchen window? I’m yelling to get their attention. (Sorry neighbors!) Kids downstairs and I need them to come upstairs? My head is going all the way into the laundry chute, and I’m using these lungs to get them upstairs. Productive yelling = okay. Angry yelling = not okay
So pray for me! I’m going to need it! And after you do, go check out Ashley at Wishes and Dishes and make these cookies!